Blog Category: Change

There is a dark aspect of change and transformation that has held me personally in its grips for significant periods of time. It’s what – in addition to limiting beliefs and habits and lack of self-love – contributes to the never-ending cycle of wanting to change but feeling unable to. You want to stop drinking, start exercising, or whatever it is, and while you know both are for your highest good, you still seem unable to actually implement change. Well, there’s a whole being of your own making that’s standing on your magic carpet not letting you fly, and that’s your ego.

(PS, as always, catch this post on the podcast if you haven't already: https://yougetwhatyougive.podbean.com/)

 

Let’s talk about the Ego, what it is, and what it’s not, according to the information that’s been made available to me (via channeling, in case I haven't made that clear). As I have come to understand it, the Ego is the False Self, the identity that we’ve all stitched together over time. It’s probably easiest to think of it as a quilt, with each patch representing something that has occurred to you in your past, something that triggered a limiting belief about yourself. At the academy and through the BLESS Coaching model, there is a process we go through called Life Cycling, where we examine your Ego Quilt patch-by-patch. Each patch is tied to a particular event that triggered a particular limiting belief or series of beliefs that often are linked to other patches and events and vice-versa, all making up the complex thing that is your particular Ego quilt.

 

With life cycling, each energy centre of your body, or chakra, is linked to one of the Four Pillars of Source (Love, Creation, Joy, and Abundance). Each centre and aspect of the Pillars is also associated with an age range. For example, the Root Energy Centre or Root Chakra, which is associated with Abundance, is your life cycle from 0-7 years. Let’s say something happened to you in that first life cycle; that event is going to trigger behaviours and limiting beliefs that will show up in ways that correspond negatively to the corresponding energies of both the energy centre and associated Pillar. For more information about this, and to see a graphic representation of life cycling, pick up your 12-Step Transformation Guide (the graphic is in there). 

 

When you are going through coaching or are on a transformation journey, it's critical to examine your habits and limiting beliefs in order to determine where they originated in your life cycles because this will reveal what energies are working against you -  which by default reveals how we go about undoing them, and that’s by working with the energetic opposites. As above, so below. For most of us, there are big T and little T trauma events which occur throughout our life cycles and these are what trigger new patches in the quilt, new beliefs which become part of our false self, the identity forged over time and tribulation (this is not to say that the events which occurred in your life were false, or not impactful or valid or true, just that the limiting beliefs the events taught you are untrue). The beliefs they triggered are limiting, the perceptions wrong, and the results, well, they can be dire.

 

The Ego, the false Self, is a quilt made of misperceptions, chief among them, the perception of your not-enoughness. This quilt cannot keep you warm, and to look upon the patches does not bring positive memories. Your Ego is a trauma quilt, a self-hating quilt, a misperception quilt, an unhappiness quilt. And yet you cling to it, believing that a better blanket does not exist, that this is all you deserve.

 

The Ego lies, manipulates, cajoles, imitates, diminishes, tortures, maims and kills, all in an effort to keep its host – you – feeding it, needing it, clashing with other egos, engaged in conflict, separated from all life and love, hating yourself and making yourself small. Why? Because it was made by fear. Your fear. And fear cannot be anything else but what it is. You made it, fashioned your quilt with it, every time something happened to you which threatened your being. And what are you? You are love. Love is both what made you, and that of which you are made. But this third dimension is a real trip, isn’t it. The veil of forgetting drops as we exit the birth canal, and then we each make our quilts, only to then have to undo them over time and over the rest of our human lives. It’s a worthy effort, and we do it for a reason called karma.

 

The Ego is a part of this experience, of the human condition, but it is not who you truly are. Not even close. But the Ego is aware of your True Self, and it’s afraid of it. The Ego is afraid of oblivion, which explains our fear of death, and the Ego wants to exist, wants to live forever in its abyss of endless wanting and grasping and clinging, of hatred and fear and perfectionism and conflict. The Ego is the reason you find yourself incapable of sustained transformation.

Well, the Ego doesn’t just live in the mind, that amazing tool you’ve been given with which to create and find solutions and manifest in this world; it also lives in the body. Limiting beliefs – the Ego’s tools to keep you in a box –are the physical imprint of traumatic events, the sensations of which return in an instant when we are confronted or triggered by something that takes us back to that event in the life cycle (even if we’re not conscious of what the event actually was). Limiting beliefs are nurtured by the mind, so that when the body experiences a physical flashback, it triggers a reaction in the mind that either repels or attracts something. In the case of a person who is addicted to alcohol, for example, when somebody offers them a drink or if they pass by a liquor store, there will be a physical reaction to the stimulus – which may not even be noticed unless the person is paying attention – which will trigger a reaction in the mind. What is the limiting belief of the Ego in this case? Well, that depends on what events in that person’s past triggered the behaviour in the first place. It might be a series of events and a series of linked behaviours and feelings. It all depends on the person.

 

The body consciousness, also known as the subconscious, is where your operating system resides. If the mind is a tool, then the body is the workbench upon which all things are made. It’s why trying to change anything about yourself using only your mind is, frankly, ineffective. The mind and human intellect is astounding, no question, but to accept that it’s all there is when it comes to healing, is as helpful as saying modern medicine should be thrown out in favour of alternatives. ‘Hearts and minds’ is a common saying, and what it refers to is the unification of these two powerful systems to advance a cause. The unification of Heart and Mind (or the Crown chakra or energy centre) opens up the Heaven’s Gate Portal, through which spiritual transformation may occur. As above, so below, and as such, the unification of Heart and Root opens up the Eden’s Gate portal – that which brings forth the spiritual aspect to the physical in the creation of Heaven or paradise on Earth. It’s also the namesake of the academy.

 

Why do I bring this up? I do so to illustrate that we live in a dualistic reality. A paradox. To change, you must address both the heart – the body – and the mind. The heart and root, in this case both representing the body (the heart, being the centre, has both ethereal and worldy aspects), addresses the fact that the body holds all the trump cards when it comes to change; the codes in the body therefore have to be re-written, in harmony with that of the mind, to unify a person’s efforts to transform. It is one of the most difficult journeys that a human being may take, but it is also the worthiest.

 

When we consider the Hero’s Journey, it is wise to remember that you are both your own hero, and also the villain; the villain of course, being that of your Ego.

 

Essentially, this is an exercise in trying to fool ‘yourself,’ to pull the wool over your own eyes. It’s to recognize that there are three parts to your mind – your true self, your false self, and the Witness. Being aware of this is the pre-requisite to beating the ego at its own game.

 

Remember, the Ego is a quilt made of sadness, of hate, of all the parts of you that live in the darkness. But isn’t that also a part of you? Well yes, it is. That is the paradox. How you get around this is by learning to first…now this is very important…LOVE all of those unlovable parts of yourself. True love of self is learning to first love the false self – the one that you began constructing as a child when confronted with the unreal realities of this very tricky dimension. So who started building the ego if first, all there was was your True Self? That’s a great question, and an example of the Paradox Principle at work. The Ego was pre-destined and based on your soul’s karma, which means, it is supposed to be as much a part of your Self as anything else. This is why learning to love the Ego is so important; it is the most difficult hurdle to jump, and if you are able to do it, you are already on your way to getting to the place beyond even karma (and yes, such a place exists). For most of us, however, we grapple with our Ego our whole lives, and if we’re lucky, we’ll glimpse the True Self from time to time. When that happens, it’s as if someone turned on the light after being in a dark room for days. It’s blinding. It hurts. It’s why a spiritual awakening can be so painful.

 

So how do you start to love the Ego? It’s easier than you think. Self-knowledge begets self-love, and self-love begets self-knowledge. The more you learn about how this works in the third dimension, the more you start to see how this game is played. The more you understand how everything transpires exactly as it should under the universal laws that we are all working within, laws such as karma and attraction and scarcity and conflict. When you see the image reflected in the dark mirror for what it truly is – a reflection meant to test you, to get you to react, you realize that the reason for all this conflict and these obstacles and pain isn’t just to cause needless suffering – it’s to get you to do something. Pain so often comes when we resist change, which is as intrinsic to our being as love, which is something else we resist a lot. Obstacles are detours, but resistance is death. Stagnation. It’s where the Ego thrives. Gotcha! It says. See you in the next lifetime to see if you’ll fall down the same manhole because you didn’t want to take another route.

 

The Ego is something you constructed to protect you from the pain of your mis-perception that you are not loveable based on the things that have happened to you over time, but your armour is your prison. The castle that you’ve walled yourself up in becomes unescapable. You become both the fearsome monster and also he or she who needs saving. The Ego is yourself, and what yourself needs more than anything else…is forgiveness. Forget about needing love, remember that you ARE love. It’s both what made you and that of which you’re made. Forgive the Ego for doing exactly what it was intended to do, which is diminish you so that you might ultimately overcome it and move on into a more advanced spiritual realm. This is what waking up is really about. It’s about understanding that all those bad things that happen actually do happen for a reason, even if it’s one of the hardest things for a human heart to accept. It’s about understanding that forgiving yourself for all of it is to forgive others who hurt you, which releases YOU from that prison. Forgiveness has nothing really at all to do with others, it’s one of God’s greatest gifts, our get-out-of-jail free card, the golden scissors to cut the rope, one of the master keys.

 

Self-knowledge begets self-love begets forgiveness of Self, and others. And when we remember that we are all aspects of each other, when we live by the unity principle that all are one, then we realize that true self love is to love others as yourself, truly. The evidence of this can be seen, as always, in the collective. Who or what do you think is to blame for all of the tragic and condemnable things that happen in this world? It’s the collective Ego at work, because the reality is we are all connected, we are all one, and we are all going to the same place. How the ego works at the micro is how it works at the macro, too.

 

When you realize that your Ego quilt was never supposed to be the only thing to keep you warm, you’ll reach for the down comforter that is your True Self and wrap yourself up in them like a little baby, grateful for both of them, and the knowledge that both were made to support you (just in different ways

One thing I don’t want to leave out is the witness. I mentioned it briefly already as being a third aspect of the mind, but the Witness is a powerful tool at any time, but particularly when you are on a transformation journey and struggling with the Ego.

 

Think of the Witness as an impartial observer. It doesn’t judge, it doesn’t cause a fuss, no drama, no heat. It simply exists. It’s just there, always. So what is its function? Well, it’s meant to create space in the moment. To blow the whistle on a heated argument. To call a time-out. It doesn’t want to sway your opinion in any direction; no, its sole goal is just get you to STOP, breathe, and question. If you’re lucky or advanced, you may even embody the Witness in particular cases, which is quite a trip. There you are, observing the two aspects of your own mind – the Ego, and your True Self – treated to a rare, bird’s eye view of the human condition at work. If you can get there, and it is always possible to get there through practices like mindfulness and meditation, it will actually change you just by the fact that you have now moved from participant to observer. Because what do they say about things that are observed? That they change. Cool, isn’t it?

 

But back to the witness. Let’s say you’re on the verge of breaking a promise to yourself, you find yourself in a triggering situation and your Ego has already given you permission to ‘do the thing’ you don’t want to do anymore. It’s the devil on your shoulder (the devil being the religious embodiment of the ego, by the way, but that’s a story for another day). If you are unaware of this dynamic interplay, you might just shrug your shoulders and say, “fine, I’ll start tomorrow,” or, “it’s just one,” or, “I’m a failure anyway, so I might as well.” If the hole in your heart is big enough, no number of promises made to yourself or others will work. On the other hand, if you’re awareness of what’s going on, but still find yourself losing against the Ego (which is a very frustrating and disempowering experience), this is where the Witness can step in to help you out.

 

If you find yourself in a tricky situation and you feel like you’re on the verge of making a choice that your true self – the self that is rooted in love – doesn’t want, STOP, breathe, and question. Bring in the witness. Excuse yourself for the briefest of moments – physically remove yourself from the place that you are standing and put yourself somewhere else. Ram Dass talked about the concept of standing in a different place in the context of perspective, and here, a physical change of placement of your body (which is a container for Ego) will help provide both a metaphoric and literal change of perspective. It will give you the opportunity to observe from above, say, “ahhh, this is a test.” Except, remember, there is no failing. Just another chance to change, to move in a different direction. A chance to say ‘Gotcha’ to your Ego, and beat it at its own game.

Be well, and know that you are loved beyond measure. 

Yes I know, strange and silly name, but acronyms are easy to remember! (PS: too busy to read this? I've made it available as a podcast, so be sure to check it out!)

For the first ever episode, we are going to explore something that might be very timely for some of you who have maybe made some New Year’s resolutions, particularly if those resolutions are about some aspect of yourself that you want to change (which is most of us). It doesn’t matter that we’re already in 2024, because the best time to make a change isn’t about an arbitrary date – it’s about the here and now. Let’s dive in. 

 

 

Within the BLESS Spiritual Coaching Framework I’ve identified something to help achieve your goals or generally help ensure that the transformation you’re after is within reach. Keep in mind of course that everything is always in reach for you, it depends on your mindset and what beliefs you currently hold about what you’re capable of. That in a nutshell is really all you need to know. I could stop right here but of course, human beings need it broken down more because usually change doesn’t happen the first or even second time we hear something, even if it does blow our minds. It's more like, lasting change happens after the 10^th or even 50^th time we hear it or try to action it....and that's because even change takes practice!

 

Okay, on to the framework. As I mentioned it’s like a mini-framework within my BLESS coaching framework, and I call it the WOOOSH model (W-O-O-O-S-H), and it stands for WHY, OBSTACLES, OPPORTUNITIES, OUTCOME, SYSTEM, and HABIT. The last two – system and habit – are thanks to James Clear and his amazing work, Atomic Habits. Credit where credit is due, and a testament to spirituality being everywhere, especially the Bestseller list.

 

Let’s look at the first letter, the W in WOOOSH. It stands for ‘why.’ Specifically, your why. Why are you pursuing this goal or resolution in the first place? Let’s say you have a goal to lose 15 pounds. What is lurking behind that goal? Is it coming from a place of self-love, or self-hate? You see, your why is important for a couple different reasons. 1) It sets the priority, and you need to get clear on what the priority is, and 2) The right ‘why’ will keep you going through the high points and the low points of pursuing your goal.

 

If your goal is simply to lose weight, that puts the priority on the scale, doesn’t it? This is also why language in goal-setting is extremely important, but so is asking the right questions. Let’s look at that goal again: to lose 15 pounds. What is the goal beyond that goal? What do you hope to do or feel or experience as a result of achieving that goal? How do you want your life to change as a result? Who do you intend to be? The Why can also be an implicit intention, and intention is the foundation for making any transformation happen. Going back to the goal: How could we re-create this goal from a place of self-love, so that the priority isn’t the scale, the priority is the extremely worthy individual who is making the goal, the one whose worth is completely unrelated to any number on any scale ever? 

 

Your WHY is your ticket to ride. It’s your foundation. The root system of the tiny plant you’re trying to grow. Without a strong why, when you lose steam – which is inevitable – you will find yourself on uneven ground. The obstacles will seem larger, loom taller, seem more insurmountable than they probably already feel on your best day. Your doubters will be able to creep into your thoughts, and your biggest doubter – yourself – who likely already shows up on the daily, will take the first opportunity she finds to cut you off at the knees. 

 

But I have great news. Your ‘why’ isn’t a finite resource. It won’t ever run out of juice or steam. Your why is tied directly to your heart’s desire, your soul, that eternal thing that forms the basis for your beautiful existence. Tap into that, and nothing will be able to deter you from your mission, your goal. 

 

 

The next letter in WOOOSH, is O for ‘obstacles.’ This one probably seems really self-explanatory, and for the most part it is. But here’s the thing, obstacles come in many shapes and sizes. Sometimes they look like our loved ones and friends, sometimes they look like the clock, sometimes they look like our own desires and conflicting ideas about what it is we want, sometimes they are our cultures, experiences, traumas, attitudes, and sometimes they look like the person staring back at you in the mirror. The way I think about obstacles, and what I have developed a whole workshop around, is the not-new concept of the limiting belief. Limiting beliefs are one huge way that we become our own worst enemies, without even realizing it. I mean, shadow work is a hot topic in our community and for a very good reason; the light exists alongside the darkness, and a personal inventory of both is required in order to know thyself. Limiting beliefs are a part of that shadow self, but they belong specifically to the ego, the false sense of self we’ve been constructing ever since birth. 

 

The realm of the Ego with its limiting beliefs is the single largest obstacle a human being faces when they are trying to make a change. Firstly, realizing that change is necessary requires confronting a limiting belief, doesn’t it? First, we have to admit to ourselves that things aren’t right, the limiting belief here, being, that things are perfectly fine, I don’t need to change! How many times in our lives have we heard someone say that who clearly needs to make a change? No judgements because we are all on a different journey and experiencing things for different reasons. But let’s say that you are at a point in your journey where you want to change. You know that something in your life (maybe you know exactly what it is) is preventing you from living the life you deserve, because we all deserve a beautiful life. Let nobody tell you otherwise (that too, is a limiting belief, and misery loves company is a saying for a reason). 

 

Limiting beliefs, you say. No worries, I’ll just tell myself a different story. 

 

Here’s the thing though. Where do you think limiting beliefs live? In your head? In your heart? In your gut? They reside in the subconscious, or what I call the body conscious. Think of them as an extension of the Ego, which exists in the mind (but is not the whole mind), but the Ego of the body. There is so much information online, I’m sure you’ve seen and heard of the work of Dr. Nicole LePera, the Holistic Psychologist, who speaks often of this. There’s so much about the vagal system and our second brain, there’s The Body Keeps the Score by Bessel Van Kolk, and so, so much more. The point being, the science backs this up. The body has its own consciousness and it remembers (some might argue that it doesn't just remember, it holds a grudge)...it just remembers differently. It carries the load of memory duty with the brain, because the brain just doesn’t have the bandwidth for over 500,000 minutes that is a human life. 

 

Limiting beliefs live in the body, and are nurtured by the mind. They must be undone if any change or transformation is to occur. Your beliefs make up your reality, and so do your limiting beliefs. But I have more great news. You can undo them, but for starters, you do have to believe that you can undo them. How? Easy. First you have to be aware of them. Look at your life, which is a confirmation of every belief you have – including every limiting belief. What stories do you tell yourself about yourself? Once you’re aware, you can start to do the work of undoing them. 

 

 

So far we’ve looked at your WHY and your OBSTACLES. Now let’s talk about your opportunities. What do I mean when I say opportunities? These are the energetic opposites of your obstacles. It is what empowers you in your journey, whether that’s events or circumstances, other people, or of course, yourself. 

 

Sometimes your opportunities might not be clear to you. Maybe you find yourself at rock bottom, maybe you’re broke and on the verge of getting kicked out of your place, maybe you’re in the depths of depression or mental illness. Maybe events outside of your control have wreaked havoc and tragedy. I’m barely scratching the surface here of all the many situations and examples of human suffering that abound, but the point is, these are the types of worst-case scenarios that can make it seem like hope is lost, that things will never get better. Suffering does not exist on a spectrum, it simply is, which means that comparing suffering is a wasted effort as comparison only exists to invalidate and cause further suffering to those being compared. There is no winning when we compare suffering, only losing, because comparison itself is a losing game. Either someone wins and they are made worse-off and thus handed the title of First Victim, or they lose and are invalidated and silenced in their pain. Lose-lose. Victimhood is a place we visit from time to time and with good reason, but it is a stop on the journey, not the place we should wish to stay. Because when we define and identify ourselves with victimhood, we give that energy to the world and of course, we get what we give. 

 

Why am I talking about suffering when the whole point of this segment is to talk about opportunities? Because the most important opportunity that you must see is the opportunity to reframe every experience, even the worst of the worst. Looking for the positives – or looking for opportunities in every situation – is something that takes practice. It is a skill. With practice and over time, you get better at it. Focused effort, consistently applied, over time, will yield results. 

 

Opportunities might look like people, places, or things, things external to you, however, as I mentioned, your most powerful opportunity lies within, and that’s your power to exert control over how you choose to see events in your life. When you revisit those obstacles, can you try and see how they could be transformed to opportunities? When you approach your life and transformation from this place, this place of openness and receptivity, you signal to the universe that you are ready for more opportunities, and less obstacles. What you focus on is what you see. What you believe is what you see. Every obstacle contains opportunity, which is an example of the Paradox Principle of the Universe. 

When you consider the end of your journey, what does it look like? Get beyond just the results that you want. Sure, it will feel good to achieve your goal, who doesn’t want that feeling of accomplishment? But get beyond the quantitative; how do you expect to feel? Embodied? At ease? Confident? What might the achievement of this goal open up for you? Maybe it will unlock something else, open another door that you never anticipated. 

 

The point that I’m trying to make is that I want you to explore the outcome of your transformation journey, whatever it is that you’re looking to change or transform in your life. Close your eyes and visualize it. Live in the body of the person who has achieved their desired results. Move around in that body. 

 

That’s what I call a surface-level exploration of change. But let’s go deeper. 

 

If you Get What You Give, and what you give to the world is Who You Are, then who you are is exactly what you get from the world in return. The outcome of your journey then isn’t just a result, it is the person you intend to be. The trick here is understanding that the person you intend to be is already the person that you are, you just can’t or won’t see them yet. The difference then, between the person you think that you are and the person you want to be, is just your misperception that the person in the mirror is your true self. 

 

But it’s not. Your belief that you’ll be better and more lovable at the end of your journey is just another aspect of your Ego, the false self, that revels in your not-enoughness. Because as long as we don’t feel like we are enough, when we embody that quality, we make ourselves NOT ENOUGH. So that even if you achieve your desired outcome, your goal, that’s not going to deliver a long-term change, not if you’ve still got that underlying programming going. But consider for a moment the strength within those who continually change, continually get their desired outcome (even if only for a short while) before reverting back. They are constantly in a battle within themselves, against their own programming, which is why they revert back after the change is made. It’s like playing a video game where the player is programmed to lose. It’s a testament to the strength of human will. But unless that programming is changed, unless those limiting beliefs are addressed, there will come a point where they don’t bounce back after the last relapse, which is usually when a choice is offered: change, or die. 

 

 

As I mentioned earlier, talking about Systems (and the next segment, which is habits) here is thanks to James Clear’s Atomic Habits. Prior to reading that book, WOOOSH was just WOOO. 

 

So, on to systems. You see, any effort directed at change must have mechanisms put in place to help make the process easier. Humans are creatures of habit. Most of the time, unless conscious effort is made through mindfulness practices, we are running on autopilot. We are living unconsciously, not in the present, but somewhere else, usually the past or the future. Our body has a system to ensure we continue breathing when we’re not thinking about breathing. Muscle memory helps us drive our vehicles when we’re completely thinking about something else. This is because we have a body consciousness, also called the subconscious, which is where our operating system resides. This is also where we have to do the work to re-code those systems that are currently operating with the habits we want to change. As I mentioned, this is also where those limiting beliefs reside, which are the very systems that need the changing. 

 

The good news is they can absolutely be re-coded, or healed. It just takes time to heal, which is exactly what time is for. 

 

Beyond that internal rewiring of systems, however, there are the external systems that can and should be put in place to help ensure that behaviour change is enabled and empowered. What can you do each day to help yourself do what needs to be done? How can your routine be re-shuffled? How can you hack your life to empower change? Time is for healing, but it is also something to be mastered, and when we’re trying to make changes, transform, and create new habits, maximizing time is critical. In James Clear’s book, he talks about something called ‘habit   stacking,’ which as he describes is “identifying a current habit you already do each day and stack your new habit on top.” At first glance it looks like multi-tasking, which I absolutely don’t believe in, but it’s not. It’s actually a brilliant way to game the operating system. What are you already doing every day – and is thus already a part of your operating system – that you could stack a new habit on to? For me, every morning I get up and pour a coffee. My goal is to exercise more, so for me, habit stacking might look like this: before pouring my coffee, I will do ten squats. I encourage everyone to read Atomic Habits; like all personal development stuff out there, it is heavily rooted in spiritual principles (though not marketed as such, probably in order to entice a wider audience), but because of the practical application aspect, it is probably one of the most helpful works I’ve read. 

 

What other systems can you put in place to empower your transformation journey?

 

 

The final aspect of WOOOSH is all about your habits. In the last segment we spoke about systems, but now, I want you to consider all the things you do that may prevent you from achieving your goal or resolution. Consider also, all the things you do that may help you from achieving your goal or resolution. The goal here is to do a rigorous personal inventory, to shed light on our behaviours so that you can move forward consciously. 

 

For me, I know that as soon as the time to exercise approaches, I always tend to find reasons to keep working because this or that is really important. Except that it’s not. That’s a habit of mine that I am aware of, and because I’m aware of it, I can put a system in place to ensure it doesn’t continue. For example, I can put a really obnoxious alarm on my phone that goes off ten minutes to workout time. The alarm will trigger a reaction on my part, a reaction that will take me away from my work. And if I put my phone far away from me, meaning that I have to physically get up to turn it off, even better. Let’s elevate it: I put that phone with its obnoxious alarm in the next room, right beside my workout clothes. This is exactly how I plan on implementing a new habit, but it first had to start with my being aware of my current bad habit. 

 

So do that inventory. You might be surprised at how many you weren’t aware of. And if you’re struggling to do it, ask yourself the following question: What do I normally do when I know I should be doing something else? 

Change is hard, but the truth is that it's the path of least resistance (which is not the same as least effort). Self-improvement and personal development IS spirituality, and using the WOOOSH model will deliver results. But it starts with you, and your intention.

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Remember, you are loved beyond measure.